<p><em><strong>After-school programs should be more than an afterthought</strong></em></p><p>There are as many misconceptions about after-school programs as there is variation in such programs, which include before-school, after-school, and summer learning programs. Some believe that after-school programs are for children who are failing and can’t cut the mustard at school. Still others view after-school programs as drop-off stations that allow busy parents the opportunity to orbit a little longer as they wrap up their hectic days.<br></p><p>Despite differing beliefs and practices, parents report a sense of relief that someone (anyone!) can help their child with his or her homework or keep their child preoccupied and safe until the parent is able to. At ESME, there is no judgment. However, we hope to expand your notion of the role that after-school programs can play in your child’s academic, social, and emotional development. If we are lucky, we may even alleviate any lingering guilt you may have or unanswered questions about the benefits of your own child’s need for aftercare. </p><p>Not surprisingly, demand for after-school programs has grown exponentially since the mid-1990s. In the last five years, the number of children enrolled in after-school programs has risen by nearly 2 million. I don’t think that is a coincidence given the increase in Solo Moms, the number of hours working parents must log to make ends meet, the standardization of K–12 <a href="https://esme.com/resources/c/education" target="_blank" class="wordlink">education</a>, and the cult of motherhood that compels us to produce “superkids.” Also important to note is that as researchers demonstrate how students benefit significantly from participating in after-school programs, parental demand and need for them continue to grow. </p><p>So what are the approximately 10.2 million children (18% of kids) participating in after-school programs getting that the nearly 11.3 million children who are unsupervised from 3:00 to 6:00 p.m. aren’t? And what about the 19.4 million children who would be enrolled in after-school care if parents could find an available program? For starters, that 18% experience marked academic improvements including improved school attendance, test scores, grades, and even graduation rates. After-school program participation also improves children’s engagement in learning and provides a learning environment where students are pushed to explore and experiment outside their comfort zones—something that happens less and less in our high-stakes testing-driven school culture. </p><p>Benefits of after-school program participation aren’t limited to academics. Students in after-school programs are less likely to join gangs, be victims or perpetrators of violence, become teen parents, or engage in a host of inappropriate behaviors. On the lighter side, participating in after-school programs keeps children safe, has a positive impact on their self-confidence and decision making, encourages overall health and reduces obesity by keeping them physically active and promoting healthy eating, reduces truancy, and improves their behavior in school. </p><p>And just when you thought it was all about your child, well, research consistently shows that parents worry less and are more productive when children are in after-school programs, saving employers hundreds of billions of dollars. Studies also show that because of after-school programs, parents are able to attend classes or job training and improve upon the work-family balance, and they have more energy in the evenings because they spend less time worrying about their children’s safety and well-being. </p><p>Although students at the greatest risk show the greatest gain, including those at lower income levels, from racial/ethnic minority groups, and that have a geographic disadvantage, these children are underrepresented in after-school programs. However, they aren’t the only students with unmet needs. Children raised by Solo Moms have an increased need for after-school programs. A <a href="http://scholarworks.wmich.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1044&amp;context=hilltopreview" target="_blank">study by Mark Barajas, from Western Michigan University</a> titled, "Academic Achievement of Children in Single Parent Homes: A Critical Review," states, although the majority of children in <a href="https://esme.com/voices/perspectives/whats-a-solo-mom" target="_blank" class="wordlink">Solo Mom</a>–headed homes graduate from high school (70%) and half attend college, they still trail behind two-parent-headed households. After-school programs can provide the necessary resources to close this achievement gap. So in addition to supporting your efforts to take better care of yourself, enrolling your child in a before-school, after-school, or summer learning program is an investment that takes care of your child now and in the future. </p><hr><p><span style="font-size: 11px;">Image via Shutterstock.com</span><span style="font-size: 11px;"></span><br><br><br></p>
<p><strong><em>How I graduated college with a child and another on the way</em></strong></p><p>I had three, upper-division literature classes my final semester of college, along with a writing workshop lead by a guest poet. Over those ten weeks, I wrote over a hundred pages and read a dozen books. In my personal life, I’d hired a lawyer in Portland, Oregon, to get an appropriate amount of child support for my older daughter, spending all the money I’d set aside for the months following graduation. I was pregnant and without a partner, stressing over a due date that was almost exactly one month after I got my degree. </p><p>My final paper was about Shakespeare. It took almost eight hours to write. My friend took my then six-year-old for the day while I sat uncomfortably on the floor with pillows, books, and notes. I wouldn’t have enough money to live on after college, but I had focus on filling ten pages with my analysis of <em>A Midsummer Night’s Dream</em>. </p><p>The class was required for my English degree. It met in a stuffy room at noon three times a week for an hour. It was my only class on the days I normally cleaned houses, stacking my other classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I’d had to let my clients go early in the semester from the scheduling conflict. </p><p>I brought my daughter Mia with me a few times, once for a particularly bloody discussion on <em>Macbeth</em>. She’d sat through a lot of classes by then. One time I nudged her out of dazed Netflix-viewing to point out my picture on the screen in front of the class, showing an article I’d published. Another time my instructor, author Debra Earling, bent over a little and said to Mia, “Your mom is a very good writer.” I hoped she’d remember these moments, instead of the many times I left her with babysitters or sitting in front of the television while I filled pages. </p><p>I took out the full amount of student loans to pay for living expenses. The Pell Grant covered tuition. I received a scholarship through WISP, Inc. (Women’s Independence Scholarship Program). My income from house cleaning teetered around $400 a month, the only money not spoken for. I began with taking classes online through a community college in northwest Washington, then transferred 500 miles away to my dream college at the University of Montana in Missoula. By the time I finished, I’d been in school year-round for the first five years of my thirties while raising Mia on my own.</p><p>She watched me walk across the stage to signify completing my degree. She watched me hug my professors, including the one who taught the Shakespeare class. For a while, I only saw it as this huge, selfish thing I’d done, going into massive debt for a piece of paper. All through college, I’d cleaned the floors and toilets of women the same age as me or younger. It made my low-income status sting, like I was below them somehow. As my freelancing career grew, and I got published more, that line in my bio about earning my bachelor’s defined me. I had worked, persevered, and finished what I’d started despite setbacks. Despite adversity.</p><hr><p><span style="font-size: 11px;">Image: Stephanie Land</span></p>
<p><em><strong>Communicating with your child’s teacher as a <a href="https://esme.com/voices/perspectives/whats-a-solo-mom" target="_blank" class="wordlink">Solo Mom</a></strong></em></p><p>You must think outside the box as a Solo Mom. Take a peek at this <a href="http://www.singlemothersbychoice.org/2014/08/02/a-letter-to-js-teacher/">great letter</a> from a Solo Mom by choice to her child’s teacher! </p><p><span style="font-size: 11px;">Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com.</span></p>