Wonderful books to demystify the challenges of disability
Nearly every classroom in America has a child with some kind of special need or learning disability. If young children read books about all kinds of people—like the ones in this article—perhaps they will develop the same open attitude as Charlie’s in My Friend Isabelle: “Life is more fun with friends like Isabelle.”
Whether the goal is to understand your own child, your child’s classmate, or a family member, reading a quality story about a character with special needs is a safe and respectful way to start the conversation.
Solo Moms can use time efficiently by carefully choosing books to read with young children. Here are five picture books to start with.
1. My Friend Isabelle by Eliza Woloson (Woodbine House, 2003) shows the tender friendship between Isabelle and her friend Charlie. During their weekly playdate, they eat snacks, go to the park, and play together. They are very much alike. Though the same age, they are also different: one is fast, the other slow; one is tall, the other short. The biggest difference between them is that Isabelle has Down syndrome.
2. Our Friend Mikayla (Independent Publisher Services, 2007) was written and illustrated by Mikayla’s third-grade classmates at Lower Nazareth Elementary School in Pennsylvania. On the first page they write, “She is in a wheelchair and has lots of disabilities. But that does not mean we cannot be friends.”
This is a rare book because it comes from other children, not from adults telling children how to feel or act. It addresses the reality of including students with significant needs in regular classrooms. Accompanied by bright watercolors, the children tell their readers about Mikayla. When Mikayla first joined their classroom, the kids were nervous: “We felt scared because we thought Mikayla was different and not like a ‘normal’ kid.”
With wonderful support from the adults around them, the kids learned she was in a wheelchair because she had brain damage. They also learned she likes bright colors and shopping for clothes, and that she could skate with them using her wheelchair.
“This book gives me hope,” said Diane Scott, of Lafayette, Colorado, who is the mother of a boy with significant disabilities similar to Mikayla’s. “It shows in simple terms that it is possible to welcome a student who uses a wheelchair, cannot speak, and has medical issues. These kids welcome Mikayla.”
3. In Ian’s Walk: A Story about Autism by Laurie Lears (Albert Whitman & Company, 1998), Ian’s two big sisters decide to take Ian, who has autism, on a walk. He isn’t interested in doing what his sisters do, which frustrates them. He doesn’t want ice cream or soda or to smell the lilacs along the way. At the park, he flaps his hands, and then, when the girls go get pizza for themselves, he wanders off.
The girls frantically ask everyone, but no one has seen him. One sister closes her eyes and tries to think like Ian. When she hears the park bell ringing, she is sure it’s him. Relieved to have found him, they are more tolerant of him sniffing bricks and watching fans on the way home. The final line, when Ian gives his sisters a slight smile, is important to making it clear that Ian is a whole child, not just one whose interests may seem weird.
A good introduction to autism, Ian’s Walk portrays Ian as someone who has interests, tastes, and desires; they just look a lot different than most people’s. His sisters also show a range of reactions to Ian, but most of all, they accept him as their brother.
4. In A Boy and a Jaguar by Alan Rabinowitz (HMH Books for Young Readers, 2014), Rabinowitz, a zoologist and conservationist, shares experiences from his own childhood.
As a boy, he struggled to make friends and belong in the big world. He felt at ease with his pets and with the big cats he visited at the Bronx Zoo. When he was with the animals, he could speak easily. Away from the animals, he stuttered. Young Rabinowitz made a promise to the animals: “I promise that if I can ever find my voice, I will be their voice and keep them from harm.”
He works hard, tries many therapies, and eventually becomes an expert. He researches jaguars in Belize, where he feels completely at home and helps create the world’s first sanctuary for jaguars.
Many children with speech and other issues find refuge with animals. The fact that this is a true story gives children and adults hope that they, too, can make a difference for those who cannot speak.
5. In Thank You, Mr. Falker by Patricia Polacco (Philomel Books, 2012), the prolific author tells her own story. She was the girl who couldn’t read. She was taunted, teased, and passed to fifth grade without any teacher noticing her learning disabilities.
In the book, as each year passes, Trisha feels dumber and stupider. Though she can draw incredibly well, she can’t read, write, or count, and the other kids tease her.
Polacco, also the illustrator, draws anguish in her characters and honestly shares how hard it was to go to school. She, like so many kids who are smart but can’t do certain things, withdraws and is headed for an unhappy life until one teacher makes a difference. The book is an homage to her teacher, Mr. Falker, who saw her gifts and her difficulties, and got her the help she needed to learn to read, write, and see numbers.
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Anna Stewart is ESME’s Kids with Special Needs Resource Guide and the Solo Mom of a daughter and two sons on the brink of adulthood. She’s a champion for the rights of people living with disabilities and those who love them.
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