Creating Your Birthing Plan

Creating Your Birthing Plan

Your baby, your body, your plan

The idea of giving birth can be overwhelming, but with a solid plan you’ll know what to expect and can feel sure all the vital bases will be covered. A birth plan is a guideline for communication between you, your support system, and medical staff. Here are tips for a Solo Mom’s birthing plan.

  • Your comfort level with your ob-gyn or midwife is very important. If you don’t feel like your needs are being met physically or emotionally, change to a new doctor or midwife as soon as possible.
  • Create a support system for yourself of friends and family who will care for you before, during, and after your hospital stay.
  • Make a list of any allergies to medication or food you have and any current medications you may be taking.
  • Make a contact list with the names and information of your birth coaches and family.
  • Designate people to help you communicate with hospital staff during the delivery and with friends and family after you get home. That way you can stay focused on yourself and the baby.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Everyone wants you to be a happy and relaxed mother.
  • Be informed about your pain management options. Be specific about how you would like to reduce your discomfort during labor, if at all.
  • There are many birthing classes you can take during your pregnancy. Bring your labor coach or doula with you if possible.
  • Find out your medical caregiver’s policy on labor positions and movement. You may have access to a birthing ball, ropes, a birthing pool, being on hands and knees, and more. Check during your tour of the hospital or birth center, or ask your midwife about your options.
  • Speak to your medical professional prior to your labor about their percentage of episiotomy births and how to avoid tearing or being cut.
  • Many women like to have their placenta encapsulated or baked after the birth for additional nutrients. Talk to your medical caregiver about their policies and your options if this interests you.
  • It can be nice to dress your birthing room with electric candles and use aromatherapy to help keep you relaxed.
  • Make a playlist of your favorite tunes with a variety of moods to help you stay focused during the labor and birth.
  • If you are having a birth in a birthing center or hospital, ask that only necessary medical staff be in your room. It will keep your room quiet, and let you focus on your labor.
  • You will have the option to have one person stay with you during a C-section. It is good to have a clear idea ahead of time of who you would like to have with you in case you find yourself in an emergency C-section.
  • Bring some healthy snacks and drinks for after the birth. You will probably be hungry and thirsty.
  • Create a call or email list of friends and family—and ask some key people to help you notify everyone.
  • Pack your overnight bag with items for 4 days in case you end up having a C-section.
  • Remember to smile, breathe deeply, and love yourself.

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Rebecca Cherry is an accomplished musician, writer, and creative seeker. She is enjoying her new role as a Solo Mom to her baby girl. You can follow her on Twitter at @CherryRebecca and Facebook at Rebecca Cherry.

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